It's a question that many women dread.

It doesn't matter if you're just married or if you've been together for a decade; the question surrounding children will be asked.

But here's the thing, it's not okay to ask. It's not okay to assume.

From women who don't want to have kids, to women who can't have kids.

No-one has to explain themselves or justify their reasons.

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There are so many taboo topics in the public that surround the female body, health and reproduction, yet many people still think that asking about children is appropriate.

Take a moment to think about the women - and men - who have suffered a miscarriage and how damaging a question like that can be.

About 280 couples go through miscarriage each day.

That's 103,000 couples a year under the age of 35 and for women over 40, the statistics are one in three women will experience a miscarriage.

Then there are women who have medical conditions such as poly-cystic ovarian syndrome and endometriosis.

Both of these conditions can severely impact a woman's fertility and ability to carry a child.

It's estimated that 20 per cent of women of reproductive age suffer from poly-cystic ovarian syndrome, which affects hormones and reproduction, while one in nine women lives with endometriosis.

Put yourself in the shoes of those women, and then imagine how it would feel if you were asked when you were having a kid. Doesn't feel good does it?

Then there are women who want to focus on their career first and women who don't want to have kids.

Should they be judged for their choice? Should they have to justify their reason to a nosey stranger? Didn't think so.

For the record, I'm not interested in having kids for a long time - if ever. It's something my husband and I have discussed, it's a decision that we are both happy with and something we can discuss if the time is right.

I don't mind if you call me selfish for not wanting to give up my full time job or for wanting to pay the mortgage off quicker or for not expressing some form of maternal sentiment.

You wouldn't call my husband selfish for making the same decision and you certainly wouldn't have asked him either.

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