Loneliness is increasing, particularly at this time of year.

We know that lack of social connection impacts on mental and physical well-being more than smoking, obesity and other factors.

On the other hand, having strong social connections increases longevity, reduces anxiety and depression, improves empathy, self-esteem and general well-being.

So the impact of lack of social connections is more than loneliness; the impacts are physical too.

The good news is that feeling connected is internal and the feeling of having social connections is enough to improve well-being.

Participating in social events like carol singing or movie nights, joining social groups like craft, cards or classes, can give you a feeling of social connection even if you are with a group of strangers. 

Just like you can feel alone in a group of friends, it’s all about perception, changing the way you see things.

If you then want to develop close friends, it takes being open to vulnerability – sharing your authentic self, being a support to people who need you, talking about the deeper sense of who you are.

Putting yourself out there may be a risk, you might be hurt or rejected, but there is also the chance you might develop a close friendship.